BOYS! BOYS! BOYS! WHAT IS UP WITH THE Y CHROMOSOME?

I just had an interesting conversation with a couple of my girlfriends. We were talking about the sincerity and maturity of a boys. The conversation started because we were talking about taking back an ex and the sincerity of boys. In lots cases I believe taking back an ex to be a form of moving backwards, especially if the boy was mean or abuser or liked a lot of girls at the same time. I do believe that people can change but I have time constraints. One of my friends explained to me that I have to drop time constraints.
I just feel like a boy will show how he feels about me after a few months. If a long has gone by and I'm still putting up with the same ol nonsense he's not gonna change. Not for me anyway. Shoot I ain't even mad. I'm the one who allowed myself to become a victim.
The way I see it, you have givers and takers. I consider myself a giver. I'll give you my time, concerns, prayers, love, patience, etc. Because of this I tend to do well with other givers. I can spot one a mile away, and being a giver myself I refuse to take advantage of someone else's generosity. But then there's the takers. They are a little harder to spot because they don't come off as takers in the beginning. However, eventually a taker will take you for all you have to give. They understand generosity as weakness and they pounce.
This is where my opinion of some boys comes into play. I have allowed myself to be duped by some insincere fellas. Fellas who wanted all I willingly gave. I thought the more I gave the more they would come to understand that I am someone to be appreciated. How egotistical of me. I cannot change a boy who or expect too much from such an immature creature. So I told myself that I would rather be single and hang out with friend, female and male. Why try to get serious right now. One day the man GOD intended for me will come along.
I like who I am. I know still have a lot of maturing to do myself. So boys cannot be my focus right now. One day GOD will chose someone for me. GOD will NEVER steer me wrong.
As for the rest of the Y Chromosomes out there who just want to see what I have to offer and take it, I have this to say. I have love, honesty, sincerity, and faith to share with someone. I want to be who I am. Just like I don't want to change for you. You do you. Do what works for you. leave me alone in the process. And please remember this. If I give you the time of day, it's by my doing.
Ladies remember that no boy can do to you what you do not allow. So do not allow yourself to be mistreated while you wait around for him to change. Do that and you walk away bitter when it's your own fault. That might sound harsh but it's wise advice. Heed my words. Be strong and focus on the beautiful, smart young lady you are growing into.

BOY CRAZZZY

Okay, so you're at that age when dating is new, exciting and maybe even strange. It's definitely confusing. You find yourself asking, "Why do boys act the way they do?" "Why are boys so mean?" "Why don't they say what they mean?"

Let me start off by saying look for love and happiness inside yourself. Look for joy and peace inside yourself. Once you confidently have found these things inside of you, you won't have to go looking for them from some foolish boy.

You still have plenty of time to deal with the sometimes harsh realities of dating. So don't get all wrapped up in it too soon. If you are dating now or talking to some cute boy on the phone remember that love, happiness, joy and peace were inside of you before he came along. DO NOT ALLOW him to take them away from you.

Anything that is not beneficial and uplifting is usually bad for you anyway. So keep your head up. Remember who you are and what you are made of.

Peace!

Don't Pssst Me

So you're at the parking hanging with your besties. There a group of cute boys hanging near the swing set near by. One of the boys catches you eye and motions to you to walk over to him. What do you do?

1. Go over alone and talk to him

2. Go over with your girls and talk to him

3. Ignore him

4. Politely smile or wave

4. Ask him to come over to you

The correct answer is number 4 or 5. Never go over to some random boy calling to you either alone or with your friends. You don't have to ignore him. No need to be rude. If you would like to talk to him, let him come over to you. He's the one showing interest. Don't give him control by walking over there. Show him you're a young lady who is to be respected. Not some silly girl who simply will come when called.

You start out on a bad foot when you go running to some random boy that says "Hey" or "pssst" to get your attention. And do not give out your number. Take his. You control what's going on, not him.

If your parents do not permit you to talk to boy then smile politely and wave. He'll most likely stay on the swings talking to his boys. If he does come over let him know you are not interested. You were being polite.

ENCOURAGE YOURSELF

"Sometimes you have to encourage yourself. Sometimes you have to speak victory during the test. No matter how you feel, speak the words and you will be healed. Speak over yourself. Encourage yourself in the LORD."