I just had an interesting conversation with a couple of my girlfriends. We were talking about the sincerity and maturity of a boys. The conversation started because we were talking about taking back an ex and the sincerity of boys. In lots cases I believe taking back an ex to be a form of moving backwards, especially if the boy was mean or abuser or liked a lot of girls at the same time. I do believe that people can change but I have time constraints. One of my friends explained to me that I have to drop time constraints.
I just feel like a boy will show how he feels about me after a few months. If a long has gone by and I'm still putting up with the same ol nonsense he's not gonna change. Not for me anyway. Shoot I ain't even mad. I'm the one who allowed myself to become a victim.
The way I see it, you have givers and takers. I consider myself a giver. I'll give you my time, concerns, prayers, love, patience, etc. Because of this I tend to do well with other givers. I can spot one a mile away, and being a giver myself I refuse to take advantage of someone else's generosity. But then there's the takers. They are a little harder to spot because they don't come off as takers in the beginning. However, eventually a taker will take you for all you have to give. They understand generosity as weakness and they pounce.
This is where my opinion of some boys comes into play. I have allowed myself to be duped by some insincere fellas. Fellas who wanted all I willingly gave. I thought the more I gave the more they would come to understand that I am someone to be appreciated. How egotistical of me. I cannot change a boy who or expect too much from such an immature creature. So I told myself that I would rather be single and hang out with friend, female and male. Why try to get serious right now. One day the man GOD intended for me will come along.
I like who I am. I know still have a lot of maturing to do myself. So boys cannot be my focus right now. One day GOD will chose someone for me. GOD will NEVER steer me wrong.
As for the rest of the Y Chromosomes out there who just want to see what I have to offer and take it, I have this to say. I have love, honesty, sincerity, and faith to share with someone. I want to be who I am. Just like I don't want to change for you. You do you. Do what works for you. leave me alone in the process. And please remember this. If I give you the time of day, it's by my doing.
Ladies remember that no boy can do to you what you do not allow. So do not allow yourself to be mistreated while you wait around for him to change. Do that and you walk away bitter when it's your own fault. That might sound harsh but it's wise advice. Heed my words. Be strong and focus on the beautiful, smart young lady you are growing into.
